Divorce Mediation of North Jersey


Frequently Asked Questions

What Is Divorce Mediation? - Why Mediate? - What Should I Expect During Mediation Sessions?
Who Is the Mediator? - What Will Mediation Cost? - Do I Need My Own Attorney?
Are the Mediation Sessions Confidential? - How Do I Know if Mediation Is for Me?


What is Divorce Mediation?
Divorce mediation is a process in which a married couple meets with an impartial mediator in order to reach an agreement regarding all of their marital issues. These issues may include child custody, parenting time, spousal support, property distribution, and apportionment of debt. Both parties participate in each mediation session, which normally lasts between one and one and one-half hours.
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Why Mediate?
The primary goal of mediation is to resolve marital issues without the anger, hurt, and hostility that are often found in litigated divorce scenarios. Through mediation, both parties are assured that their point of view will be heard and considered. Mediation is also far less costly than litigation, and resolutions are generally reached more quickly. Research has shown that mediated settlements last far longer and work better that those obtained through litigation.
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What Should I Expect During Mediation Sessions?
The mediator will explore all issues that must be resolved in your particular case. You will be expected to make a full disclosure of your income, assets, expenses, and liabilities. If child support is an issue, the mediator will discuss the New Jersey Child Support Guidelines as they relate to your case. Your feelings regarding the settlement of issues, as well as the feelings of your spouse, are of paramount importance to the mediation process. Once you and your spouse have reached an agreement on all marital issues, the mediator will prepare a document, called a Support and Property Settlement Agreement, which will be a part of your divorce proceeding.
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Who Is the Mediator?
Arnold H. Miniman will act as your mediator. He has been a member of the New Jersey Bar since November of 1971. Mr. Miniman began his career by clerking for the Judge who handled all divorce proceedings for Morris, Sussex, and Warren counties prior to the adoption of the Family Court in New Jersey. Mr. Miniman has specialized in matters of family law for more than 28 years and has handled literally thousands of cases on behalf of both men and women. He was one of the initial panelists on the Morris County Early Settlement Panel and served on the panel for more than 15 years. Mr. Miniman has successfully completed the Specialization Seminar in Divorce Mediation offered at Rutgers University. He is a municipal court judge in four communities and has left the area of litigation to specialize in divorce mediation.
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What Will Mediation Cost?
Mediation fees are billed on an hourly basis. The fee for the initial mediation session is $300. All services rendered by the Mediator after the initial session are billed at $250 per hour. At the initial session, the parties will sign an "Agreement to Mediate" that details the fee arrangement and addresses possible additional disbursements, in case it should become necessary to involve an accountant, appraiser, or other professionals. The total cost will depend on the total duration of the mediation process plus any additional disbursements. Historically, mediation costs have been significantly less than the costs of litigation.
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Do I Need My Own Attorney?
The mediator does not represent your or your spouse. It is always recommended that you consult with independent legal counsel. The mediator will gladly discuss any marital issue with your attorney. However, your attorney will not attend mediation sessions with you.
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Are the Mediation Sessions Confidential?
Yes. During the initial session, you and your spouse will sign an "Agreement to Mediate" that emphasizes the confidentiality of the proceedings. No position taken by a party during mediation, regarding any issue, may be used against that party during litigation, should the mediation process fail.
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How Do I Know if Mediation Is for Me?
Simply stated, if you and your spouse are willing to try to communicate in an effort to resolve your marital issues, then mediation is for you. While not all mediations are guaranteed to succeed, the mediation process has a proven record of success.
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For more information, call or write Arnold H. Miniman at (973) 541-0014 or ahminiman@aol.com

Last updated 01/18/01